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[Aufstand]

In public, at school, or on facebook, I'm constantly amazed at how, superficially at least, closely connected girls seem to be. Anything bad happening to one is a tragedy for all parties. Seeing each other again, no matter how short the the separation, is utter joy. If one is threatened, the group devoutly organizes in defence of her. They proudly and constantly proclaim their love for each other. The emotions for anything seem so intense. Crying, laughing, hugging, et cetera, ad nauseum.

I don't think I could ever be connected that way with guy friends, or even my siblings. I suppose if I had a younger sister I'd protective of her in a remotely similar way, and a significant other possibly, but I have a hard time seeing myself connect with anyone to the extent that girls seem to with relatively distant comrades.

Maybe I'm overexaggerating the emotions on the part of girls, or I'm especially cold and disconnected, but I do wonder about the inter-girl relationships. I'm tempted to say it has to be feigned, or purposely overdone, but I'm not sure.

btw - No lesbian jokes please. Those get old fast.

[akiratheoni]

I think it's just the culture we grew in. Girls are socially expected to be the emotional ones; I'm sure we've all noticed that the guys barely do anything like that, unless it has to do with a cheating whore or something.

[Red Phazon]

The things that annoys me is when they get in that emotional state and become very noisy and loud.

[Aufstand]

Sort of makes me wonder how this affects other elements of society.

My step-mom for example becomes furious at the drop of a hat. If anything isn't how she likes, even if it is very minor, or no one's fault, she'll lose reason and become irrationally emotional. I will calmly state a response and she seems to lose the ability to hear what I'm actually saying. My calm, moderate responses get misconstrued and she often ends up just angrily ordering me to be quiet.

Granted, some of this is human nature, and I'm quite biased.

I do wonder though if women are given more license to be irrational, while men are held to a higher standard to be restrained. A man who was as emotional as many woman would either be absurd (touchy-feely), and men are more easily portrayed as abusive (aided by the fact that men tend to be larger/stronger). Going back in history, and even in popular media now, women are often portrayed as being less answerable to reason and given allowances to act out.

Granted, also, there are many other societal impressions and expectations that affect both sides.

[Lone Wolf]

Yes Girls tend to be more emotional than boys, and they get mad easily, and get emotional easily. Plus they tend to backstab each other no matter what, they talk about others behind people's back way to much

[Mezulu]

You can look at it from almost any standpoint you want; girls are hard-wired genetically to be more emotional so that they relate better to the children they raise, men are more emotionally distant because emotions have little bearing on the hunter/gatherer/provider role men played in the past, but what it really comes down to is culture. The culture we were brought up with, i.e. movies, music, magazines, the internet, etc, portray women as emotionally unstable, and therefore girls are raised to believe this is how they are supposed to be.

I, however, know plenty of women and girls who are far more emotionally distant than most men, even myself. You can't generalize on something like emotion. It varies greatly with socioeconomic status. For instance, I tend to see girls that were raised in better conditions to be those that are more emotional. Whereas girls who are raised respecting the value of their money and possessions are less likely to become emotional over trivial matters. That's my take on it, anyway, for what it's worth.

[Jer]

akiratheoni, on 16 August 2010 - 02:03 PM, said:

unless it has to do with a cheating whore or something.

haha we do this all the time!

but yeah girls are just plan weird, once you think you understand them it all goes to hell and your stuck trying to figure them out again