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[Aufstand]

I'm far from the most social of people. Takes great effort for me to contact my mom and siblings every now and then to let them know I'm still alive and well. I connect far better with books and long-dead authors than most any living humans. For the most part my perspective on social interaction is that if i can escape without eternally shaming myself and my ancestors then it's merited a great success.

So girls are a difficult quandry.

My main practice traditionally was to maintain simplicity by ignoring them, or if they were persistent enough in pestering, do the minimal response necessary for politeness. I do eventually want to get married and have a family though, so i've taken some steps to get at least a working knowledge and some practice in dealing with them.

The current girl i'm interested in, been interacting with her a fair deal over the past two months, knows i'm interested in her, and seemed receptive, but said she didn't think she was prepared for a relationship, nothing personal about me or anything.

And posted on facebook, lamenting how all her friends were getting engaged, married, kids, and she had no guy she could relate to, talk to, trust, or date.

I'd happily be any and all of those...

Blah. Emotions are annoying.

[Red Phazon]

Anyone who knows me realizes how much of a social maniac I am. Yeah, I tend not to connect with others very well, and even when I do it drains my energy more quickly. Of course, it's not that I can't stand being around others, but I am more at ease when alone. I can't tell if you, though, are happy with your level of social level or not.

I feel lucky that I lack desire to have a family and all that. Dealing with those kinds of situations would completely turn me off even if I did desire it.

Anyway, I agree completely that emotions are very annoying. I wish I had the ability to disable some of them some of the time.

[Aufstand]

I'm okay being around people, but I don't like if there are expectations I feel I ought to live up to. Walking alone through the busy midday streets of D.C. is fine. I can tolerate being on the bus. Hanging with friends is nice, but my mind starts to collapse after a while. Being in a group where I'm not comfortable, especially if sitting quietly and watching would be odd, makes me feel miserable. I'm pretty much fine with people one-on-one, though I try to be very aware of how i stand with relaton to them.

I guess by default I like to sit on the side, but I'm constantly trying to gather what the situation is, and worry when my standard pattern doesn't comply well. For the most part I would like to have a small corp of people I could talk to or discuss with, and I like having a wide range of people to do certain activities with, like sports, religion, video games, writing, such. But the actual socializing bit doesn't really appeal to me much by virtue of itself.

I do dream of being properly oblivious of existence. And disabling emotions on call would be amazing.

[Mezulu]

My technique in uncomfortable social situations is usually just to ignore my feelings. I come off as confident because I force myself not to be awkward. Over the years it's kinda just become second nature for me. Lots of people describe me as an Alpha, which I find funny considering that I generally am most content when I am by myself. As far as girls go, it's the same thing that they tell you about bears. They're usually just as scared, if not more so, of you as you are of them. If you act confident, funny, and a little cocky, you can have pretty much any girl you want.